We had a big fight about the whole thing and I explained that drug use was kind of a deal-breaker for me due to past family issues with drugs, not to mention that I would soon be starting an internship as a substance abuse counselor as part of my graduate studies in social work. The difference is that my guy is now seeing my importance because he lost it. My previous long term boyfriend was a straight edge and barely drank at all let alone smoke pot, my current partner occasionally smokes pot or drinks a few beers. His habit of smoking weed was everyday: before he got out of bed smoking a bowl, he'd smoke all day and the last thing he would do before bed was load another bowl and smoke. Its only the husbands, the wives all gave up when they had children. I still think pot is addictive - I'm not distinguishing between physical vs.
Is there more to this story? Don't get mad with his answer. You won't be able to force him to quit, but perhaps if he sees that it isn't just you who sees his arguments are foolish, he may decide to quit. You cannot change him, no matter how hard you try. But some how he started smoking black and milds and once I got on him about those then he started smoking the e cig and got back on marijuana. And if he was sober, he would sweat repulsively. They are doing what they are doing.
Why is it necessary to 'teach' teenagers not to smoke weed? Why exactly do you hate it when he smokes pot? Maybe I am lacking in strength. Get lost in your self not drugs. It's been hard and i'm crying just writing this-- but it means a lot to come home and see your message after work. You are trying to control him. I must add though that it is the most uplifting and powerful experience to be able to travel with these families as they recover - it is possible for all to become empowered by the journey so never lose hope. This is why I am looking for other sources from those who are part of Christ's church. A female reader, , writes 28 December 2010 : Janety is verified as being by the original poster of the question We have been together for almost seven months.
When he confessed his used he also expressed that he was trying to quit or cut down. I continued to be unaware of my situation for years. Such an well written piece. Admit the loss and the pain and the powerlessness. Your husband is responsible for his own behavior, just as you are responsible for yours.
Can you find a time in your past when there was an intolerable condition that you accepted? Try to get him to tell you everything. There is no reason not to set personal boundaries either for yourself to keep your lungs healthy from his habit. And it kills their sex drive and they are still often sullen, moody and have issues. However, about 2 months into our relationship he started staying with me at my apartment. The biggest problem is that he lies about it.
Now, we are both home for the summer and it is clear he is using regularly. Too many women, like me, see guys like this, with so much potential, and we try to help them, unsolicited. I was getting really anxious about how much he was smoking more and more and I asked if he could cut back a bit because I was worried about him. Wow, if him sneaking to smoke out of respect for you is a total deal breaker then I would suspect you have bigger issues with him. Would he fou it behind my back? I have had this happen to me, and my friends have had it happen to them.
Is him smoking a big enough reason for you to break up with him? Sounds like this year has been stressful. I smell it on him all the time and can't stand the smell it makes me sick right now but he doesn't care. We are married, and he is still. A male reader, , writes 28 December 2010 : Here's the thing. Eventually he began doing hard drugs again and he broke up with me because of his dependancy on the drugs.
I have 2 younger sisters who grew up with it all around. I'm trying to get to the emotion of it. So it is more than what he is indicating to me. Anywayd, glad to see im not alone. I am 11 weeks pregnant and am trying to keep my stress down, but I just don't understand why the hell he lies to me and does the one thing I've asked him not to? She utilizes a mind, body and spirit approach to healing. I understand that it takes a lot of time to get through to your partner about their habits and being able to come to an agreement as I have been having the same trouble. I think in many cases, cutting back consistantly while receiving counceling can be a good solution.