In November 2010, God delivered us from our horrible financial situation in one moment. I was off work with depression for 2 weeks and never helped me and in the end I had to ask him to leave. This journey now the Lord working in me, extreme new patience with suffering for the things I hope for, the anxiety for time to time. After about 9 months things got better. I am remarried but, he has cheated on me but I am totally dependent on him.
I just wish someone had given us this information thirty years ago! We are still living together and he still calls me by my pet and we Give each other an occasional hug and snuggle, i want to support him as the road ahead is going to be rough for him. Jan Hi Jan, Your posts reads like a story of my life, only without the dependence part. I feel like a single mother and my poor little one is exposed to his anger too. But as you've asked, I will not be contacting you again after this email. I know I played a part in the dysfunctional side of the relationship. The feeling is lingering longer and longer after each fight and it scares me. I have to make a choice: should I stay and just accept this or should I leave this very unhappy place.
We have been living together for just over a year. We moved to a happier location where he was away from some chronic stresses in his work and family life and I expected improvement… and there has been some improvement, but the mood roller-coaster and the long, dreary periods of negativity and anhedonia remain. I used to have so much fun. Except for the youngest, the kids do not need or want me hovering. Said they were sending a car to pick me up to take me to the hospital. I also married,over five+ years.
Tonight I finally realized what I am going through -a walking depression. Therapy can be a wonderful place to learn this language of healthy striving. You are stronger than you think. I am glad that you responded. I could go on antidepressants myself, get some therapy, and try to tough it out in the hope that the new environment may help him, eventually, to destress and learn to enjoy being alive. That was after the worst year of my life. I was asked the other day when was the last time you felt happy.
Then one day he stopped saying i love you and that he doesnt know if he loved me anymore. I am getting tired guys. It was his and our daughter is growing up healthy and strong. There was abuse, threats of harm to me and to himself , blame… but I knew that if I stayed with him out of guilt then that would be it and I would never be able to leave him in the future, knowing what would follow. Ihave been placed on a new desk at work. Please take care of yourself. He courted me like I was a princess, but after the wedding he dumped me physically and emotionally as if I were a frog.
Like Alison, I am a writer. But the slow drip of neglect and unfriendliness, hostility and indifference, petty control attempts, jittering anxiety and relentless plonking negativity, are much harder to respond to. College may not be for everyone, but a degree can certainly help you in most careers today. Our second child was born. My parents made me feel that giving birth was the only time I had ever done anything worthy of their approval.
The doctors could not diagnose me of anything, but I suffer the dizziness, head pressures, nausea though the lord took this away for the most part , the random chest pains that most likely started my panic attacks and multiple E. The wife wants affirmations that everything she's saying is correct. Throw in my particular batch of issues—teen years full of bullying, a dad who drank, a mom who's sick with multiple sclerosis, a profession that's collapsing—and maybe I should feel sad and anxious. It is hard when family and friends do not seem to understand. Send me strength to deal with Mr. Of course, my parents did not have the same information in 1980 as people do now.
It was an alien being monster that lashed out constantly. What does this have to do with Gods plan for my life? She will move back to her home state…15+ hours away. I was in a stage in my life where I was looking for somebody different. And the difference is, I take accountability for my behavior and dont use the cop out of being unable to change or manage it. I am constantly sick with the flu or with overwhelming headaches. But I have never allowed my self to give up on anything, never let go, never show how I black I feel inside.
After a few unsuccessful attempts at therapy, I quit because I figure that no one cares. I feel like I could have written parts of this. The first month I wanted to cry all the time at work and home. I feel unhappy, and nothing is enjoyable. Have a wonderful day, and may our Comforter, the Holy Spirit, help you receive the love of Father God for you today. Your articlcle came when it was greatly needed. When our daughter was born there was about 4 or 5 days of euphoria and then he crashed.