Children who are abused or deprived internalize that sadness and blame themselves. How about you pat yourself on the back for being fiscally responsible and get over yourself. Money when had should go to those who need it most. Continue to periodically do this exercise, sometimes just approaching to pat your dog while she eats, sometimes putting your hands into her dish and sometimes taking the dish away. Remember to give her plenty of delicious treats, like bits of cheese, hot dog or chicken, every time she hears the baby sounds. I recently learned that my parents are buying my fiscally-irresponsible sister a house.
If you seem nervous and jumpy, your dog will pick up on your feelings and may become nervous as well, thinking that the bundle in your arms is something to worry about. As soon as she lifts her head to look at you, pet her and give her treats. Even though I know that if I said that I would really hurt their feelings. Let that go first if you can. If you feel that you cannot successfully keep your dog separated from your child at all times or help control her pain with medication, it may be wise to consider re-homing her with a friend, family member or other adopter who has no children.
So don't act like you're ready to give her the world just because you like her. You do what you need to do to get by, and you learn never to look down on someone who is making his or her best effort. There is no amount of money that will make up for this fact. The world would be a much better place if people stopped expecting handouts. Remember this: a woman does not want to be loved by a man she does not admire, but she would sacrifice everything to be with a man she does. And I totally agree about being grateful for the good things. My family dynamic is similar although immediately less extreme and it hurts.
Skyblossom is right that you can only control how you deal with your family and how much interaction you have. Be upset, angry, hurt, however you like. They keep her in check by trouncing on her if she dares assert an observed act of unfairness. You can limit your time at their home over the holidays or skip their home entirely. Now that she has a child, your parents will maintain status quo because of the baby. Make sure your dog has a wonderful time during these visits.
I would just add to reflect on things that you are grateful for because that can make a big difference in the way you view the situation. Aim for two or three 5- to 10-minute training sessions per day. But not for why you think. He needed it at the time. However, they would never ever ever spend thousands of dollars on a house for either me or my brother. For the record — my folks are also absurdly Even-Stevens when it comes to my sister and I.
This will only set her up for a bigger letdown when the baby comes and takes center stage. My in-laws, at the time, had a healthy savings and were both still working. Some money was loaned to one sibling and not another earlier in life when it was needed. My bad for a poorly executed comment haha. So we will continue to make good decisions and be able to support ourselves. I also disagree with your comment.
Money can certainly buy a certain level of security and it can make things easier. And that's exactly what a woman dreams of: She wants to be part of a power couple a la Brangelina , a relationship that will make everyone envious of her. With repetition, your dog will start to anticipate tasty treats and simply look to you each time she gets pinched or grabbed. You chose to take it personally. Teach her to settle quietly in an area where you plan to nurse the baby.
God willing, your parents will live a long life. Her sister is a financial mess. Then you have said what you need to say and the ball is in their court. If she wants to, let your dog sniff the baby as you continue to speak softly to her. Pinch your dog, and then give her a treat. I push fiscal assistance away as much as possible. My sister grew up to be emotionally immature and so ended up with an emotionally immature husband because who else will marry you when you are immature.